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Rejection in any situation, job, social or romantic is very painful. You feel it’s the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you. But each one of us at one instance or the other is being rejected for something. It is very much part of life. So, being overly serious about it is not at all required. Being rejected means, you are meant for something different, something else. Never take rejection personally. Maybe the other person has failed to recognise your skill, your value, your worth. Maybe you are not meant for that particular circumstance. The reasons are plenty.
So why don’t we change our attitude towards rejection? If I am rejected by a person or in a situation, that means I am meant for something else, maybe a better situation, or a better person.
1.Acknowledge your pain and let go.
Whenever I am hurt or pained for rejection, it is important to acknowledge the pain as it is very much of me being human. It is necessary to react. If I try to hide or fail to admit, the emotions get trapped within me. But, if I react and acknowledge my pain, it will help me to let go easily and move on fast.
2.Keep believing yourself: You are rejected not because you are not good enough. Maybe you have knocked the wrong door. Maybe the other person failed to acknowledge your worth. You are meant for something different and maybe better.
3. Motivate yourself to thrive: Rejection motivate you more. Now, that you don’t carry any fear of rejection anymore. You are more focused and determined to work harder.
4.Equipped yourself with better strategies: Once you drained out emotionally, face the challenge head-on. Build up more tolerance and strength to work harder. Learn and strategies yourself better and ready for even bigger challenges.
Each one of us has a different meaning about life. Some may give a materialistic meaning while some may think spiritually. Life is a journey through two realities, birth and death. Every day, a family celebrate the birth of a newborn while another family mourns the death of a member. So what is this life mean to us from this journey from birth to death? Maybe each one of us has a purpose, or a goal or some may have none and live life as each day as it comes.
We are quite aware that, with the physical entity, we do hold a powerful mind and a beautiful soul. So, the meaning of life cannot be limited to materialistic things and success, it has to have a deeper meaning. Psychologically, many studies and research are carried out in this area. Keeping aside the scientific approach, how, generally individual like us view life as meaningful?
4 interesting point of views. : These are not based on great personalities’ s quotes or any research-based. They are just general views/opinion of the common individual like us which are not judgemental.
1.Loving yourself and loving the people around you, especially your loved ones who give you a sense of belonging and safety. You keep working for them, providing emotional and materialistic support. You do frame some goals and purpose based on this love and keep thriving for it. For some, this becomes a meaningful life, as it gives you much satisfaction.
2.Some may have a bigger purpose. Some may view life as more meaningful by helping others in whatever ways they can. They live life with an open arm, willing to help whoever comes their way and in whatever means they can. They do it, not because of any gain, but it gives them a sense of fulfilment, the meaning of being alive.
3.Some work towards a purpose, a goal to bring about a change in human race, environment, or whichever aspects of life that appeals to them. They keep working hard towards this goal to bring about the change and make this world a better place than the one that they found it to be. Because of this purpose, make their life more meaningful and inspiring.
4.Some derive meaning to life by staying at the moment. Instead of thinking too much about the future or ruminating the past, staying at the moment gives them real meaningful life. Challenges, problems do come daily, tackling them daily make their life more interesting and meaningful to them. Instead of focusing on life purpose, they find more meaning in life by overcoming challenges daily.
Growth is dynamic. Scientifically, we grow till our last day in this world. But as we age, though we keep ageing physically, our mindset get stuck at some point in life. We start developing certain thinking pattern, a mindset which becomes very difficult to change. The problem arises when this mindset starts interfering through our challenges in the journey towards our goal or ambition.
5 observations to change from a fixed to a growth mindset.
1.First of all, you forget that you have a super brain. Age has no relation to our learning abilities. Any kind of intelligence, skill, a habit can be acquired if you put necessary effort. Therefore, challenges in professional, or in personal life can be overcome if you aim to do so. That is how a growth mindset response.
2. When you have a fixed mindset, you are unable to take any kind of criticism. Instead, you become too self-critical of yourself. Your response to criticism is more emotional than practical. You take things personally. With a growth mindset, criticism can be big learners. You tend to learn from the criticism and find out ways to improve. Instead of being critical and judgemental of other’s success, you tend to get inspired, appreciate and learn from other’s success story.
3.Unlike in a fixed mindset, you get disappointed and give up easily, but with a growth mindset, you tend to continuously make an effort to achieve your goal. Take each day as a challenge, and thrive towards your success. You have this never giving up spirit.
4.The most important aspect of a growth mindset is believing in yourself. In a fixed mindset, since you are self-critical, you tend to see your limitations only. But with a growth mentality, you never argue with your limitations, instead, you focus on the opportunities and possibilities to achieve your goals and success.
