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Overthinking: 10 ways to stop 🙌

by drjurisharma, posted in food, Life, photography

Hello everyone ! Have a wonderful and safe day 🙋🏻

Thinking is what makes us the most intelligent species on this planet. It is this thinking what drives us to learn, study, analyze. Thinking makes us competent and innovative and help us to perform a task or job. But, when thinking becomes out of control, nagging and overtime, then, we start creating problems for us. As a habit, overthinking is not uncommon. We all may have it to some degree, more or less. Some realize it and correct it while others may be so drawn to it, which may lead to toxic consequences like anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies and insomnia.

Ten simple ways to stop overthinking on a day to day basis:

1.Awareness: Before you can change the habit or develop a strategy, it is essential first to be aware of this habit of your mind. Whenever a thought lingers you, there is also some emotion attached to the thought. You start imagining worst possible scenario because the mind tends to think about the negative first. Maybe, this is from the time of evolution of our species, to foresee a potential danger first. So, imagination causes the mind to be strained and anxious. An anxious mind keeps brooding again and again. So, being aware of this state of mind is a fundamental key to change.

2.Reshaping your thought process: Instead of avoiding the thought or running away from it, start to reshape your thinking to a positive one. Instead of imagining the worst scenario, imagine the best scene. Instead of brooding onto the fear, create a strategy and achievable goals.

3.Change your Perspective: This is important because overthinking is ground to fear of losing or failure. So, instead of thinking on the negative terms, start thinking on the time frame—prioritize the perspective. Whether the thought or emotion do hold any value in your future, maybe five years from now or perhaps just next month.

4.Distracting the mind constructively: Many people tend to overthink when they are alone or lonely. So, it is essential to do things or develop hobbies to keep your mind occupied and let out the emotions like painting, dancing, photography, gardening, playing an instrument or even jolting down the thoughts.

5.Perfection: Aiming to be perfect is just not done. This will lead to unnecessary anxiety or stress. Instead, focussing on your progress and growing day by day is the more practical approach.

6.Overcome fear: Fear comes with failure in the past or with a bad experience in the past. But, having a past loss, doesn’t mean you will have the same outcome every time.
7.Realize the truth: The truth is that we cannot predict the future. Future is associated with an element of uncertainty. So, instead of thinking and worrying about the end, it is wiser to focus on the present moment. Focus on all the positive aspects of your life, which makes you joy and cheerful.


8.Accept your worthiness: Overthinking is usually associated with fear of failure, that you are not good enough, not worthy of success. Keep yourself reminding that you are good enough; you are capable enough to accomplish all your goals.
9.Be grateful: Living in gratitude is the most important view in life. We should never forget to be thankful for the life we lead, being able to breathe and for the things and loved ones we have around.


10 Last but not least, the physical body affects the mind and vice versa. So, regular exercise, meditation, walking in nature all help profoundly to keep a healthy mind with a healthy body.

Thanks for reading.

Blessings and much love to all 💐

 

Grit 👊

by drjurisharma, posted in Life

Hello everyone ! Have a wonderful and a safe day 🙋🏻

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Wikipedia’s meaning of grit is ‘perseverance and passion for long term goals’. This phrase seems to be more of a hard personality trait which can be the most valuable one when nurtured in our life’s success story. Angela Duckworth, a psychologist, made ‘grit’, the term of character trait, famous in her extensive research on its immense potential. She analysed different clusters of individuals from a diverse background. Her study has shown that persistent efforts with directed practise to hone a particular skill and focus towards a chosen goal can invariably lead to success more than just being talented or intellectually sharp. Having been born talented or born with an intelligent IQ is a blessing. But, if efforts are not enough to hone the ground talent, the talent remains unexplored and wasted. It’s a fact that not every one of us is equally gifted. But, yet, each one of us is born with this natural capacity of the inner strength of grit. Holding onto this innate capacity of grit can give us the courage to follow our dreams in the quest for success in life’s journey. To develop a skill or to unfold a success story, a mere talent or a sharp IQ is not enough. It is the continuous effort and perseverance to follow the passion and the learning from every failure that goes to make the person successful. Failures contribute more than success because, with each failure, you learn more and understand better.

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Unlike animals or lower creatures, human beings are born knowing nothing. They are just born with only one ability that is to learn. It is this character trait to discover and learn more that goes to make the difference. The Japanese philosophy of Kaizen is prevalent and mainstream, not only in business but also in every sphere because it resonates entirely with self-improvement approaches. It says, success can be virtually ahead, if we organise us, with continuous and constant improvements in honing a skill directed towards a targeted goal. Therefore, grit outdoes talent.

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The power of passion and persistent efforts has more thrust than being talented or having a sharp IQ. Learning to nurture a growth mindset and our capacity of grit becomes a better tool, not just in growing a particular skill but also in learning life skills that contribute through roller coaster ride of this life journey.

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The simple strategies that go to develop the capacity of grit: some of the outlines that Angela Duckworth ‘s book “Grit” has highlighted.

1. Understanding self, start questioning yourself. A self-analysis on what intrigues you the most, what exactly resonates with your personality and what gives us the ultimate joy in doing so. Understanding and acknowledging your inclination towards a passion is essential. When the clarity is centred, organising yourself or self-disciplining, building upon a growth mindset, the skills to develop, the strategies to follow, are the keys that are needed. Then, start building up short term goals and a greater purpose in this endeavour. Higher levels of goals, a greater purpose is co-related to the power of grit. Following a random passion, without any intention or targeted outcome is a hobby or a past time. So, a goal and a correct path are essential.

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2. Strive to improve every day. Slowly, each day, taking one step ahead. Improving and progressing in polishing your skill is necessary. Competing yourself to perform better than your previous day’s progress. Pushing yourself each day to try adjusting the expertise. Each time, you fail, you learn and understand better. Though failures are frustrating at times, failures give you a lot of information and better feedback than anyone else. It helps you to reflect upon and try again. So, a continuous effort of deliberate practice is essential.

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3. Building up a growth mindset is what matters the most. In a fixed mindset, you think that your abilities are firm, you are unable to grow further. You are what you are. That is how a fixed mentality functions which are not true at all. Even neuroplasticity says that the brain can change or undergo changes continuously irrespective of age. So, the brain has an enormous capacity to learn more and more and transform changes accordingly. So, it’s essential to practise and honing a skill which can bring out differences in the neural pathways.

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4. Improve and boost your morale. With each time failing, your motivation levels dropdown. Your negative thoughts keep haunting you continuously. Sometimes, your confidence becomes so low that you find difficult to sustain. In such a case, use a past positive memory of a good learning experience where you felt proud of yourself as the guiding memory. This ‘feel-good’ factor will help you disrupt your negative thinking pattern and push you to focus back and continue learning and attaining the skill and help you for striving to succeed.

Thanks for reading.

Blessings and much love 💐

Post : 5 takeaways from failure.

by drjurisharma, posted in Uncategorized

I have failed and you have failed. We all have failed. Yet, when we fail, we are so upset 😭, torn , collapsed that we don’t like trying again. Because none of us like failing in life, at work, at play, in business or even in relationship. But it’s actually the failures that teaches us the most. 5 take aways…

  1. Lesson taught : Failure teaches you the best lesson on why ,how and what went wrong in any task you did. It helps you become intelligent and frame better strategies.
  2. Grounded : It keeps you humble and grounded. Even when you get success , you cannot forget the pain and struggle you went through.
  3. Committed to goals : You are more determined to achieve your goals. Recommits you towards your goal.
  4. Overcome fear: You don’t have fear and insecurity any longer. Its keep you focus rather than anticipating the future or outcome.
  5. Support system : Tough days are good to acknowledge your true friends and family who stood by you and support you.

Post: 5 wonderful ways to feel abundance free from scarcity thinking 🙌 ☺️

by drjurisharma, posted in Uncategorized

Why do we frequently have a feeling of being stuck? Why do we feel, we are yet to get our dream job? Why do feel we are yet to go on a dream vacation? Why do we feel we are yet to get the right opportunity?

Not only in professional life, but these questions do prop up also in our personal life? This happens when we focus on scarcity. When we have a mindset to focus on what we do not have.

So instead of what we do not have, let us shift our mindset to abundant thinking, on what we do have?

So then, how does the changing mindset helps? 5 wonderful ways:

1.Start focus on abundance from your daily life. Start to appreciate the food, life, people around you, the roof, your friends and so on. Instead of a closed mind, your mind opens up, start seeing and appreciating things which you have never noticed. Once you start feeling abundance, your mind opens up to a positive vibe. Not just one day, develop this habit for each and every passing day. On a bad day too, instead of a sour mood, start to get things more organized, disciplined. You will bound to get results.

2.At home, at work, everywhere you go, get the abundance vibe from other people. Instead, of feeling threatened or fear of other’s success, when you start appreciating them, you create yourself a safe abundant environment. You start to appreciate their lives and struggle. You can grow as an individual, a continuous positive vibe, non-judgemental thinking gives you an opportunity to look at every failure or success as milestones. You are more open and secured, you can take up further challenges without fearing failures.

3.Changing takes time. To develop an abundance thinking takes some time. Each time your mind goes back to old thoughts, keep reminding all the good things, good people you have. Practice gratitude daily. This is a powerful tool to experience abundance and happiness in life. You can create your own daily abundance affirmations. Feeling abundance gives happiness despite circumstances. You feel whole, satisfied.

4.Focus what is going right in your life. Focusing on what is going right gives your brain a more holistic and larger approach to problems in life. You can derive the right decisions and solutions easily with a more open and optimistic approach. You are more creative and inspired by life.

5.Being self-aware is the thumb rule. Self-awareness helps you be aware of your thoughts, language and behaviour. It is a powerful tool to bring out a new change, built a new habit in our life. By being aware, you make a conscious effort to check the thoughts that come and shift them towards abundance. Feeling plentiful gives you a satisfying life.

Thanks for reading.

Blessings and much love to all 💐